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All the youngest siblings are spoiled
There was an article somewhere. A mother was writing how she used to overprotect her first one. Then, later she had the second kid and she was now an expert. No fuzz. Hey, the kid is eating the hand cream, no big deal. Parents and the oldest kids went on hallelujah and amen. The oldest child always has it the hardest. The youngest, that spoiled brat, has got it all ready and handed to them in a nice package.
Sure do. As the youngest of three, born 8 years later than the middle sister, I got it all ready and done: Many of my toys, clothes and other things were my sisters' old. Many of the things were broken in and worn. So was my family. I was in the way of my pre-teen and later teen sisters and my parents were too busy to make sure we all had food and clothes. I got used to be compared to my sisters and to be the lesser version of them. I even had middle school teachers who called me one or other of my sisters depending on who they knew better.
I get it. In the same way as I see my older sisters as the ones who got it all new and shiny they can see me as the spoiled brat. I'm sure we are all equally as wrong.
It goes further than that. For me being short has been in times difficult and I have wished to be taller. On the other hand I know a tall person who appears to wish he was shorter. Can you believe it? And as someone who has stubbornly straight hair I find it shocking when curly haired ones complain about their unfortunate hair situation. Women with big boobs have heard it all about their big boobs and I have, with my small ones, been called with names and scoffed upon.
As you are not really alone with your "special" problems you still have your own special way of looking things. You look them from the point of you of your gender, your nationality, your place in your family and whatnot. That thing you see as an advantage may very well be obstacle for the other person. Your own experiences are making you biased and your bias is making you see things.
A big sister thinks she has cleared the path and done the heavy lifting for the little sister while the little sister feels the weight of the expectations and the darkness of the shadow laid upon by the big sister. The both parties have had more hardships, at least that's what they believe. In reality not all the older siblings are caretakers and pioneers nor are all the little siblings spoiled and used to get the whole world ready and effortless. And even if they are, one isn't better or worse than the other.
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